I went to a concert last week with Girl A. At the concert we meet up with another friend of mine Girl B and Boy X. Girl A and Girl B know each other through me and I know Boy X through Girl B. Girl A and Boy X had not met before.
However during the course of the evening, Girl A and Boy X took a liking to each other. Girl B (who is happily married to someone else) didn’t seem to too pleased about this and decided to leave, to “get Boy X away from Girl A.
This week, I receive an email from Boy X asking if it would be ok for him to ask Girl A out for a drink. He had cc-ed the email to Girl B. I asked Girl A and she was pleased so I passed her email address on to him.
A few hours later, I had an email from Girl A demanding to know if I’d passed on her details because he hadn’t been in touch. I told her to be patient. Then Girl B emailed to ask if I knew whether they were going out yet. I told her that I had passed on the email address and that was all. She then replied saying “Keep me in the loop”.
This morning, there was an email from Boy X thanking me for sorting things out and then another from Girl A asking if Boy X knows that she has been married. I don’t know what he knows about her. I've not said anything other than pass on her email.
I’m not going to keep Girl B in the loop. I don’t want to be in the loop myself. If they go out and like each other, that’s great. But otherwise I don't want to be kept informed. Its getting awkward already.
definitely keep well clear after this,if it all goes wrong they'll blame you!!!
ReplyDeleteI know! All three of them probably will!
ReplyDeleteI'm confused!
ReplyDeleteWhy does Girl A's previous marriage make a difference? Is she still married? Or divorced?
And what difference does it make to Girl B as she isn't going out with Guy X?
This situation seems unnecessarily fraught. I think you're wise keeping out of it.
I think technically Girl A is just separated but is getting divorced. I don't know why it should make any difference. As for Girl B, I think it is a control thing.
ReplyDeleteI'm going out with Girl A tomorrow and I'm not even going to mention Boy X. It all seems rather ridiculous at our age - really calling them Girl and Boy wasn't accurate but it sounded better than Woman A and Man X.
Who gives a f*** about details ... just tell them you don't approve of extra-relational excursions and don't want to be involved...ok I know it sounds SO righteous...
ReplyDeleteBut it keeps you completely off the hook, and subsequently uncommitted to either side...which is handy when it all gets messy...
Cogi - I think you misunderstand. Girl A isn't with isn't with her busband anymore (he doesn't even live in this country) and they've been split a year now. And Boy X is completely single. It is the other person who is married.
ReplyDeleteBut I thought you implied Girl B and Boy X were an item...until he took a fancy to Girl A that is...certainly Girl B seems to think she has a claim on him...(and if that's not extra-relational, I don't know what is!)...
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